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Post by Cloud on Apr 22, 2009 22:16:55 GMT -5
It seems like a current trend now a days is having Women who are fairly old or reaching the big 50 in about a decade or two, are dating younger men about 20 or 30 years younger. I never thought about this till I saw How Stella Got Her Groove Back. I honestly think love is love and its alright for someone to love whoever they want. Besides, as long as the man is 18 and over, its all legal. But something about it makes me cringe a bit. When a women is old enough to be your mom, thats just kinda sad honestly in my opinion. I mean cause when your being intimate with her, isn't it like being intimate with your mother? I can go on and on but to get to the point, what do you guys think? Is it ok for older women to date younger guys?
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Post by Mizboo930 on Apr 23, 2009 9:14:51 GMT -5
I mean men do it as well dating younger women crystal dated a man 8 years older...if you date someone who is 10 + years older ain't it like dating your mom or dad??? I dt care if ppl do it its their bus..i will never do it...but one or 2 years older (never younger) max but idk. whatever floats your boat, i think in some cases it is discusting (really contradicting myself but ) lol yeahh....
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Post by sheik on Apr 23, 2009 13:38:23 GMT -5
I used to be so grossed out by this! but if you're REALLY in love, I don't think age is important at all! Sure when I thought about it it kiiinda made me feel grossed out, imagining this situation between me and like an old man, but when you're in love you really don't think about that AT ALL! And the worse thing ever is to be madly in love with someone who you know is so incredibly perfect for you but you can't be together because of the way it'll look, just because of the fact that she was born long before you ok, but that doesn't change the fact that you were practically made for each other! So I guess my enthusiasm shows that this has happened to me ^^
She was much older than me, I really have no problem whatsoever with that but I know other people are disgusted by that, so I'm still ashamed to tell people her age! But she was the only person I've ever met who's completely gets me! She's been through the same things I have so she understands, except that she's older, and has more experience so she always knew exactly what I needed when I needed it! Everything was just... perfect!!! But then somebody kindof saw us but wasn't sure, there started having some rumors, so we both decided it would be best if we stopped... me for my parents and her for her job. It was a long time ago, but still now when I think about her I feel so depressed about the fact that I went from like heaven to hell just because of the fact that "it's just...wrong" even though people don't have any REAL reasons to be so against it. It's so hard seeing her all the time, lol today for example I was walking and talking all excited with some friends and accidentally bumped into her, we just stopped and stared at each other for like 5 whole minutes, I could actually see her eyes getting watery, then my friends started acting weird (because I DID spend like 5 minutes staring at this lady with my mouth half open, looking suddenly depressed) so they pulled me away and I had to fake being happy with this crappy life I'm living, throwing away such joys that I could have had just because people aren't open minded enough to accept the idea.....
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Post by sheik on Apr 23, 2009 13:40:11 GMT -5
I kindof consider people who are very against that like the people who are so against homosexuals really... It's not so different if you think about it. Just people in love, but it doesn't follow the perfect criterias that we're all supposed to follow to the letter so people find it wrong and gross... *sigh*
(and wow I wrote a lot ^^)
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Post by Mizboo930 on Apr 23, 2009 14:36:41 GMT -5
i mean its all about what makes you feel comfortable...people date older people because they are more mature and have had more expirences and can help you through things i suppose...but it shouldn't matter but it does..espically where you live like in the South (in the US). Like my ma dated and married a man who is 3 years older than her. But in some cases where ppl (like my lil bro who is 17 dating a 14 now 15 year old is nasty) just for legal reasons if he pisses her off and she screams rape he goes to jail...its different if you're of legal age can't scream rape lol (of a minor) no more so. BUt if it makes you happy then that's all dat matters. Ppl shouldn't care what others think but it does cause of the stares and whispers...
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Post by sheik on Apr 23, 2009 15:10:21 GMT -5
lol and mostly the assassination from my parents which would have happened if a girl in my class found out, who would tell her boyfriend who happens to be my brother (how convenient!) who would obviously tell my parents who would probably make me get an emancipation or something like that lol
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Post by Cloud on Apr 23, 2009 16:13:55 GMT -5
I really like how this debate is going. It seems to me that we all seem to agree that age is really just nothing but a number and that if you really love someone, it shouldn't matter how old they are and stuff. I'm a little lost though at some of the examples you guys used only because It's hard for me to kidna put them together with what the thread is about. But I still get the point that you guys are addressing so its all good I guess.
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Post by sheik on Apr 23, 2009 16:16:43 GMT -5
yeah it's cool! I missed the debates ^^
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Post by Cloud on Apr 23, 2009 16:19:16 GMT -5
Me 2. It's just been so hard coming up with some, but I promise that this board won't be closed anytime soon LOL. I have some great debate topics in mind for the next few days.
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Post by sheik on Apr 23, 2009 16:25:36 GMT -5
cool!! yeah I never got how you could come up with subjects all the time!!
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Post by Cloud on Apr 23, 2009 16:27:56 GMT -5
I normally just think of something off of the top of my head. Or something that I saw in the media that I think would make a cool topic or whatever. But most of the time its hard to come up with topics that will intrest everyone and make everyone wanna say something. At least everyone voted this time.
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Post by sheik on Apr 23, 2009 16:32:20 GMT -5
that's cool!
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Post by Cloud on Apr 23, 2009 16:32:52 GMT -5
Yeah LOL.
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